Just Wondering

[jazzy_dave]

If you were giving directions to somebody you disliked or hated would you misdirect them?

If you met your clone what would you do? How would you react?

Nature or nurture?

Comments

[siglinde99.livejournal.com]

No. I might mutter darkly under my breath about how tempting it is, but I wouldn't actually do it.

I would be curious about whether they are different from me, and how (see nature vs nurture, below).

Both. My kids are both adopted, but raised exactly the same way (to the best of my abilities). Despite all the gender neutral toys and clothes, my boy's first words were car and truck, and he never met an extreme sport he didn't like. My girl was a Barbie-obsessed ballerina-wanna-be. Despite these huge differences,. and the fact that we look nothing alike, friends and family can almost believe they are my birth children; he is a pig-headed foodie like his Mom, and she is an artsy, animal-loving mini-me.

[ladyblue56.livejournal.com]

No, I would give correct directions not bc they deserve decent treatment but bc I am a nice person.

My husband's brother intentionally gave me bad directions and advice on where to park when my husband was in hospital w. heart issues in 2007. The parking deck was not safe and the hospital had valet parking for the families of patients. That says much more about his character than whatever he thought of me to do that at the time his brother almost died.

Would my clone also be disabled and have major health issues? If not then I think I'd be curious but also jealous she was living the life I was supposed to have as a healthy person.

Nature vs nurture - when you have a child w. learning disabilities it gets discussed a lot at school and in families. I think it is both.

[kabuldur.livejournal.com]

No, I would not misdirect them, even if I disliked them. I have a saying, 'I never get lost, I'm always being told where to go!' Lol :D

Hmmm...I'm not sure.

50/50. Seen enough in my parenting to observe this.

[spikesgirl58.livejournal.com]

Anyone who knows me, knows better than to ask me for directions. If they were mislead by them, it is because I'm rubbish at giving directions.

Probably feel very sorry for it.

I think I'm more into nurturing

[myspin.livejournal.com]

No, I would not intentionally give anyone, regardless of my feelings, inaccurate directions.

If I met my clone ... what would I do? Watch, I suppose. It would probably take me a little time to get over my shock and approach her for conversation.

Nature and nurture can't be a stable proportion. I mean, it's going to change from person to person, and in each person, from situation to situation. I will say, however, that eleven years ago, I was researching "mid-life crises", in an effort to understand someone's bizarre behavior. The theory is, those that stray furthest from their nature, through the usual suspects, have the most painful transitions. A few years later, in my early forties, that was me. Fast forward to now, having learned so much about who I am, I realize that my babyhood was the biggest indicator of who I really was ... and just how far I strayed. Now that I am more authentic, I can see so many traits that I inherited from my parents and those that are a result of my upbringing.

And my sons! They never cease to blow my mind. The whole dynamic is amazing to watch.

Thank you for your thought-invoking questions, by the way.